Setting the example

Your daughter's behavior is dependent on the way you treat her. I remember there was a period when we were very strict with our eldest daughter, Jerrie. During one period, we were talking loudly to her (to show that we are the authority that she should obey) because she was quite rude at that time, talking loudly to us.

But despite repeated attempts to correct her, it was to no avail. Then my sister-in-law told us that she was talking loudly to us because we are doing that to her. After realising what has happened, we changed our way to teach her by reasoning with her. We were surprised that it actually worked. Now she speaks more courteously to us and to other people. From then, we have been observing her and notice that she learns her behaviours from us all the time. We are setting the standard for her to follow. Therefore, we are very conscious of how we behave in front of her.