How to make your new born baby feels secure

When your baby is in the womb, he or she is curled up because of the space contraint. The position however provide a sense of security for the baby. When they are born, they are no longer curled up. We make the baby feels secure by wrapping a blanket around them. Of course, the blanket also serve as a means to keep the baby warm all the time. When they are not wrapped with the blanket, you will notice that your baby might get startled once in a while. I was taught to provide a little bean bag for my baby not long after she was born. The bean bag is to be placed on her chest to make her feels secure. The bean bag gives that effect that somebody is hugging them.

Why a bean bag and not a pillow?

Pillow is too soft for the baby and it is also too light. And it is also dangerous. Because your baby might get suffocated by the pilliow. And because it is light, it will not make them feels secure. A bean bag will have a correct amount of weight to make your baby feels the difference. The bean bag will not suffocate the baby too.

Do note that the bean bag cannot be too big. Your baby has not built up the strength yet to hold too much weight on her body.

Setting the example

Your daughter's behavior is dependent on the way you treat her. I remember there was a period when we were very strict with our eldest daughter, Jerrie. During one period, we were talking loudly to her (to show that we are the authority that she should obey) because she was quite rude at that time, talking loudly to us.

But despite repeated attempts to correct her, it was to no avail. Then my sister-in-law told us that she was talking loudly to us because we are doing that to her. After realising what has happened, we changed our way to teach her by reasoning with her. We were surprised that it actually worked. Now she speaks more courteously to us and to other people. From then, we have been observing her and notice that she learns her behaviours from us all the time. We are setting the standard for her to follow. Therefore, we are very conscious of how we behave in front of her.